To the anonymous that sent a message having been assaulted by a friend that believes that they put themselves into the position to be assaulted: I answered your ask, but tumblr had an error and deleted it.
“My best friend of five years raped me in the spring semester. I put myself in that position but said no to certain things. But he did them anyway. Investigation was dropped due to lack of sufficient evidence. He keeps his job, his life, and his girlfriend, who knows and hates me, and I’m left with depression and the guilt that even though he did what he did, I put myself there and was too scared to say anything, much less no.”
I’m sorry this happened. No matter what the scenario is, no means no. It doesn’t matter where you are or what you’re doing or who believes you. No one has the right to take advantage of you.
You can’t set yourself up to be assaulted. The perpetrator has no right to do anything that you don’t want to do.
It was definitely not your fault. It never is. I hope that you will come to see that someday <3