The Duct Tape ProjectSurvivor"It doesn’t matter who you told, who it was, what you did, or when it happened: If you identify yourself as a survivor, you are a survivor."

The Duct Tape Project
Survivor
"It doesn’t matter who you told, who it was, what you did, or when it happened: If you identify yourself as a survivor, you are a survivor."


The Duct Tape Project"Survivor""In an abusive relationship from October 18, 2008 to January 27, 2011. I’ve been free for over two years now and it really does get better with time and with true friends."

The Duct Tape Project
"Survivor"
"In an abusive relationship from October 18, 2008 to January 27, 2011. I’ve been free for over two years now and it really does get better with time and with true friends."


Q
Last semester, I was raped by two individuals on two separate occasions. With both, I consented to certain sexual acts, but then they did things to me that I didn't. I can't bring myself to forgive them, and I can't stop blaming myself. I can't report them either...I don't think anyone would even believe me. I don't know how to cope. I feel so utterly alone and I don't know what to do. I don't know how they can be so happy with their lives now while I want to die. What should I do?
Anonymous
A

I’m so sorry to hear that you have to go through this. You definitely shouldn’t blame yourself. Sexual assault is lack of consent, and if you did not consent to something, it is assault. Those two people chose to assault you. You didn’t choose it or cause it. 

It is completely up to you whether you want to press charges or not. The process of a trial and all that comes with it can be very difficult. However, the outcome can be very rewarding. There is no right or wrong. You do what’s best for yourself.
http://theducttapeproject.tumblr.com/post/21680579721/the-duct-tape-project-even-if-it-started

Some survivors find talking about it to be very healing. A great thing to do is to seek out a good therapist that you click with. Therapy can be very helpful and enlightening. The best first step is to open up to someone/people you trust. It can feel very vulnerable to tell people, but it can alleviate some of the loneliness and burden of carrying all of the weight all of the time.
(http://theducttapeproject.tumblr.com/post/22071269487/the-duct-tape-project-you-may-have-to-tell-more)

I hope this helped! Some other good websites to check out are:

RAINN.org

Understanding Series
http//mentalscubadiving.tumblr.com/tagged/understanding

Resoures for Survivors
 http://theducttapeproject.tumblr.com/post/22075194808/some-resources-for-survivors


The Duct Tape Project"Survivor"
"I was sexually assaulted by a friend. As soon as it happened, I spoke up about it. I didn’t want to be a victim. I wanted to be a survivor.”
Thank you for your submission! <3

The Duct Tape Project
"Survivor"

"I was sexually assaulted by a friend. As soon as it happened, I spoke up about it. I didn’t want to be a victim. I wanted to be a survivor.”

Thank you for your submission! <3


jessicasings:

projectunbreakable:

The posters read:

“You’re cold? Why don’t you get us a blanket?… Oops! Come back here. It’s warm.” - My uncle when I was 8

~several more abusers until age 14~

“Come here. I want to tell you something.” - age 21

“I’ve been looking forward to this. You’re so hot… Wanna date for 10 minutes?…” (after I pushed him off me) “F***cking grinding like we’re in 8th grade!” - my rapist, age 21

“I’m sorry. I have to. I have to break your rule. I can’t help it. I have to. “ - assault after 1st date with a “nice guy”, age 23

I’m not fully healed yet, but I’ve become an activist and advocate for sexual assault awareness. I’ve skydived for Operaton Freefall for the past six years, given speeches & testimonials, and started The Duct Tape Project. This is what I love. Speaking out helps me to heal, and it can help you & others too. You don’t need to make a speech or tell 100 people. If you tell 1 person your story, you are incredibly strong and speaking out. 

Right now, I’m surviving, and someday I’ll be thriving. But surviving is enough for now.

Photographed in Springfield, MA on July 1st.

Not sure what Project Unbreakable is? Click here.

Want to be a part of Project Unbreakable? Email us at projectunbreakable@gmail.com

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View submissions here


Me! (Reposting because typos are fixed!)

I posed for this last week, the day before the 2nd anniversary of my rape. On the anniversary, I celebrated me. I treated myself to a massage, Ben & Jerry’s on a walk, reading in a amongst roses in a garden, painting my toenails pink, no makeup, comfy underwear, comfy shirt that I don’t have to “suck in” for while wearing, and cheesecake to-go at Cheesecake Factory. I didn’t try to keep busy or ignore the day. I fully accepted any thoughts or feelings as they came. It was all about self-care. With all of the sharing and self-care, it turned out to be a really healing week.

I’m really glad that I participated in this amazing project. I can only hope that The Duct Tape Project can be as successful one day!

Me posing for an incredible sexual assault awareness project that you should really check out: Project Unbreakable


The Duct Tape Project"Husband of Survivor, Survivor"


“My husband, my strength, my support. The first time we were intimate, I panicked&#8230;(from previous experiences). I told him, “no, stop” and he stopped. I cried as he held me and I told him what was wrong. He told me that no one should ever be treated like that. The next morning we made love and it was the most beautiful experience. This year we’ve been married for 15 years. I love him! He is my everything.” 

The Duct Tape Project
"Husband of Survivor, Survivor"

“My husband, my strength, my support. The first time we were intimate, I panicked…
(from previous experiences). I told him, “no, stop” and he stopped. I cried as he held me and I told him what was wrong. He told me that no one should ever be treated like that. The next morning we made love and it was the most beautiful experience. This year we’ve been married for 15 years. I love him! He is my everything.” 


The Duct Tape Project"Survivor"
Assaulted 3 times by the same woman."I DID NOT ask for it, and neither did you.I promise you, survivors, there is hope. You can find a healthy relationship afterwards. Don&#8217;t be afraid to talk to someone. You will not be seen as weak.&#8221;
Thank you for your submission! &lt;3 

The Duct Tape Project
"Survivor"

Assaulted 3 times by the same woman.
"I DID NOT ask for it, and neither did you.
I promise you, survivors, there is hope. You can find a healthy relationship afterwards. 
Don’t be afraid to talk to someone. You will not be seen as weak.”

Thank you for your submission! <3
 


alcone:

fuckyeahsexeducation:

TW: Assault/Rape
hungoverjesus:

rats-in-the-walls:

folk-piggie:

spellbound-masquerade:
THIS.

theducttapeproject:

The Duct Tape Project“Men and boys can be assaulted and raped by women. It’s not related to masculinity”Either gender can be assaulted by either gender. People tend to think that it is not possible for males to be assaulted by females. This is not true. And it doesn’t make the victim any less of a man for it before the assault or afterwards.

Too many people forget that males can also be raped. It’s not just females who get abused and/or raped. Males do as well. This needs to change. Just because a male gets raped, it doesn’t make him any less deserving of help than if it was a female who was raped by a male. It can go the other way round.

People’s general attitude towards men being sexually assaulted is “lol” and “well that doesn’t sound like a problem!” This attitude contributes towards men feeling emasculated and it needs to stop. 

I’m glad that people didn’t just go “lol did you like it?” when it happened to me.

This needs to be circulated more.


This is a serious and valid topic of discussion, but I just want to ask—why is blue so prominent in this ad? Is there some color symbolism that I’m missing?

Yes, there is. The color for Sexual Assault Awareness is teal. It&#8217;s actually just a coincidence that the model is wearing similar colors. However, I used blue tape because it was what I had, and it was close to teal. Closer than silver anyway. The lettering for the project is always teal as well. In later pictures, you&#8217;ll see that I purchased teal/light blue duct tape to go along with the project better. Hope that helped your question! Thanks for reblogging =)

alcone:

fuckyeahsexeducation:

TW: Assault/Rape

hungoverjesus:

rats-in-the-walls:

folk-piggie:

spellbound-masquerade:

THIS.

theducttapeproject:

The Duct Tape Project
“Men and boys can be assaulted and raped by women. It’s not related to masculinity”

Either gender can be assaulted by either gender. People tend to think that it is not possible for males to be assaulted by females. This is not true. And it doesn’t make the victim any less of a man for it before the assault or afterwards.

Too many people forget that males can also be raped. It’s not just females who get abused and/or raped. Males do as well. This needs to change. Just because a male gets raped, it doesn’t make him any less deserving of help than if it was a female who was raped by a male. It can go the other way round.

People’s general attitude towards men being sexually assaulted is “lol” and “well that doesn’t sound like a problem!” This attitude contributes towards men feeling emasculated and it needs to stop. 

I’m glad that people didn’t just go “lol did you like it?” when it happened to me.

This needs to be circulated more.

This is a serious and valid topic of discussion, but I just want to ask—why is blue so prominent in this ad? Is there some color symbolism that I’m missing?

Yes, there is. The color for Sexual Assault Awareness is teal. It’s actually just a coincidence that the model is wearing similar colors. However, I used blue tape because it was what I had, and it was close to teal. Closer than silver anyway. The lettering for the project is always teal as well. In later pictures, you’ll see that I purchased teal/light blue duct tape to go along with the project better. Hope that helped your question! Thanks for reblogging =)

(via forsaken-country)



It took me twelve years to talk about the two years I spent as a child victim. No more.

The Duct Tape Project"Survivor"
"Silent for twelve years. Silent no more."
Thank you for your submission! &lt;3 

It took me twelve years to talk about the two years I spent as a child victim. No more.

The Duct Tape Project
"Survivor"

"Silent for twelve years. Silent no more."

Thank you for your submission! <3